MY YOGA AND TRAVEL JOURNEL : November 2018

BORN TO STAND OUT

By funtoosh_DIARIES - November 08, 2018

........To all my beautiful Readers..

You are all a masterpiece handicrafted by the almighty...

His marvellous work of art..

Celebrate the beauty within you ....

Celebrate your individuality...

Now i am gonna ask you a simple yet conflicting question ...

How do you define your yourself and your life?Are you a try hard desperate to fit in a group or do yo believe in standing out and outshining .....

Are you spending enough of your energy and time in trying to adjust and get accepted by the group or a society or in family or with friends?

Are you ok with living the life of a puppet and being controlled and manipulated by the strings of your group norms or standards.....?

Now is that energy and time really worth it?

We are no robots or slaves to someone to feel obliged to conform..

When we are not aware of our self worth and our strengths,we tend to easily forgo ourself in the crowd...You find fitting in with the crowd is the easiest shortcut.....

certain twist n bends and ready to fit in ..

But do you realise that not every place you fit in is where you belong.

So how do you define standing out?

Your football coach kicked you out of the football team...Is that what you call standing out!!.

Standing out doesnt mean When the Crowd moves north,you head south...

Or their right and yours....

You dont have to be flattering...just no to false show ups or flauntings.....

It is standing up for your individuality yet living a life of integrity....

It is great to have inspirations,or a role model,take the good in you, but don’t have to imitiate blindly....Theres a difference you see!

How do we define standing out!!

Let us take some of great men as an example,the ones who moved the world " revolutionised the world"...serving greatest gift to the humanity...

In the fight of freedom,influential leaders like mahatama gandhi ,aung san su ki ,martin luther king , nelson mandalla and list goes on...played a Dynamic role...

...2..So whats stopping you...is it the fear of being left alone,kicked out of the group,or some relationship?? Do you really belong to this place?

3.tell..You have the option to go with the road lesss travelled by...and stand out from the crowd...Go Find the recognistion to the unique yourself and shape up your individuality....

Two roads diverged in the woods and i took the one less travelled by and that made all the difference
--Robert Frost

So why to follow the crowd when you can be the LEADER

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Just have a little faith in yourself and your ideas,and most importantly voice to your opinion...

Foster the Innovation ... Strive for the Creativity.....Look out for new ways ...Do something different..Do something wothy....

Go get your mark of remembrance ...your own walk of fame...

YOu only live once....live it large live it legendry

But what qualities does one require to shine out...?

For a good leader,one has to be good decision maker...n for that you have to start taking decisions on own ....you might fail but atleast you will end up learning...let the experience be thy teacher...

Good communication skills is equally important to communicate your ideas to the world...n get yourself understood....

You may take the calculative risks ....make sure to have a backup plan also...

But how do we nurture the self confidence in us?

You are already good enough...n have in you what it takes to shine...only you have undermined your potential since long..

Next the question arises how.....

Get past your insecurities,n fears...be as you are...its the part part you can play..

Easier said than done naa.....So hereby lets take the intitiate...you can pen down your biggest fears and biggest insecurities in a paper.. Now think about the ways to overcome each of them...

Start fostering positive thoughts against your insecurities ....

You are stronger than you think....

Are have already taken a step ahead....

....may be you can go for solo travelling...or get your hair colored in unicorn or show up in pyjamas to office....just kidding...

But a solo travelling would be great...

what say ...

5.So for now you the perks of standing out,so whats holding you back?

Is it the fear of rejection or criticism or mockery or in the worst cases threat to life and property...
or you simply feel ok trying to fit into other peoples shoes...

For this fear of being left alone will haunt you as longer you dont free yourself from the conformity...thereafter you would start loving the solitute too... JUst let it go guys...Let go the fear of being left alone,or the fear of criticism or the judgement...

6.Now we talk about the great men throughout the history who committed to the truth rather accept the conformity..

They were the Rebels..
THe troublemakers...
The Risk takers...

The one who led the Revolutions...

Philosopher Socrates not only stood for his beliefs but was also willingly accepted the death penalty rather than change his opinion....

He choose commitment to truth more than his life....

Dietrich bonhoeffer went against nazism and yet stayed in same country...eventually he was executed ...but atleast he had a mark in history for his bravery...

Then we had Thomas jefferson and his dynamic role in revolutionising america by challenging the existing norms and conventions..

Galileo with his sciencitic discoveries not only stood out of the crowd but also against the crowd courageously by challenging the orthodoxy of the church for his commitment to the truth..

They stood for the truth...for what was right ...went against all the odds..

6. So guys why follow the trends when you yourself can be a trend...

Do you wanna live a life of imitation or wanna sail your own harbour n explore the vast ocean which is ahead you..

It take nothing to fit in ..just few twist and turns....but it takes everything to stand out and make a diffrence in life
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Its your life your decision.....
. Whether you want to live an impactful life or serves as a mere photocopy...
the choice is yours

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BREAKING THE STEREOTYPES

By funtoosh_DIARIES - November 08, 2018

For so long the society had caged the humans...defining how to dress,talk,walk,present ourself,roles to undertake,or career path to choose....

You are a girl ...be more feminine... Boys dont cry... lady ...expected as good homemaker

man...your are stronger...

Mute up these voices which for long caged you.....

But not any longer...!!

With my new blog post i would like to address the Breaking of the stereotypes ....

Smash all these senseless stereotypes....
Just remember >Humans are born free ....
You live freee....DIe FReeee....

1.Toys and plays are meant to push ones flexiblility and creativity, and open up the possibilities and choices for them,whereas reinforcing stereotypes only narrow their horizons

1.emotional authenticity should be encouraged in males,so they nurture healthy and respectful relationships...

They shoulld be encouraged at young age to learn to express their feelings,for some only wear the mask of toughness while suffer silently inside..

In a study conducted,41 % men admitted to have felt pressuriresd to turn to viloence and aggression....also they were suppressed to express feelings like fright and sadness...

They have every right to feel whatever the way they want to..

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Many have experienced a relationship failure ,within family friends,and spouses by lack of self expression and fear to be judged for their emotions...which resulted in lack of self esteem,extreme anxiety and depression..

In contrary those who maintained emotional ties with their close ones had better pshychological health....this is the language of emotion..

Dont have to act walnet tough on the outside, for vulnerability is ones greatest strength...

For better intimacy with ones partner ,vulnerability plays a strength...

We gotta get rid of false concept that softness is weekness...infact it takes great courage to be vulnerable....

Are you only acting tough?how authenticate is that?

Life skills development like empathy tolerance,if taught in school curriculum could result in better psychological health of children and make them more confident grown ups...

When we defiine a male n female on basis on gender...
growing up without gender binary..
I m looking forward to a society without gender norm and age old reinforced stereotypes...
lets challenge the gender identities and gender norms
girl you gotta be more girly..hey boys dont cry,you gotta be tough...
Some girls just dont like playing barbie or dress up ,n wanna you have a game in arm wrestling or football....
our sex doesnot have to define our gender identiity..
Lets not limit a childs' imagination creativity and scope for innovation by defining certain boundaries for them...
Our fashion n styling sense has nothing nothing to do with the gender we are born with...

I m deeply fascinated by the movie ki n ka...kudos to the creative team behind.....
love the thought of free play...
boys should explore n cherish their sweet caring n compassionate side....
gender roles is a really outdated phenomenon in todays world...makes me so overwhemled and happy that our world is progressing to more open mindedness....
Today there is nothing like mans job or womens arena...
source of income and share of housework is equally undertaken by both partners...

why do we have to define clothing,play tools for the genders

blonge long hair,dressed in beautiful pink..
we can take this start by paying deaf ears to questions is it a boy or a girl...
Let us eradicate the gender binary stigma from the society...
now lets talk about the equality....
in the society

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1.movie ki ka ..example

lets take one of most emopowering woman Gal Gadgot aka wonder woman as as example...As an achievement she has the a female superhero movie as the main protagogist...and break through the cynical male figure dominated superhero world ...

Kangana Ranaut from bollywood has shown to the world that woman can be more than romantic accompaniment in bollywood movies....which for long misguided us giving wrong notions of woman shown as submissive to men ....everytime male coming to her rescue....

2.break girl boy stereotype,,,

such movies are great example of society ending the long run gender based prejudices and getting more open minded and liberal...

3.wonder woman breaking stereotype...strong woman
4.male belly dancer ishan
5.freedom speech..bird..cage..handcuff..zanjeerenn
6.Our very own Susmita sen THe miss universe' is yet another ispiring example..

.....let us...Stand for our belives .....n
.....I have wings..

Lets Break through the conventions and the defined boundaries..and Give in new wings to ourselves...

Serves a great example that self expression should not be limited to the gender...

He is great strength who chooses to be himself care not howoever the society responds...

For if you wont stand for yourself then who would???

Why restrict our boys to blue or black when you can be any spectrum of the Rainbow....

Smash the stereotypes....Unfollow the crowd and blaze your own path....
You are born free,you live free ...Die freeeee.......

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By funtoosh_DIARIES - November 04, 2018

CONFIDENT FOOL & DOUBTFUL GENIUS

With this blog post i would like to address the biggest problem of the millennium....We see the fools and fanatics so certain of themselves whereas the wiser people full of doubts...

So well quoted by Shakespeare that a fool thinks himself to be wise,but a wise man knows himself to be a fool....

You find a wiser person to be full of doubts,uncertainties n open mindedness...overconfidence and pride in ones skills and achievements develops a superiority complex which is as dangerous as inferiority complex..for it diminishes the learning zeal and quest for learning new skills,n ultimately stops the overall growth of a person...he is no less than a self proclaimed brimful vessel which can further not be filled...

There is nothing more dangerous than a confident fool....n it get more destructive when such fool is appointed at the leadership post..

In psychology this is called as dunning Kruger effect..which is cognitive bias wherein unskilled individuals suffer from illusory superiority..which in actual is their inablility to recognize their ineptitude...

Conversely a highly skilled individuals tend to underestimate their relative competence

the doubts in genius might turn out to be blockage to skills,knowledge and talents...
he may do something real good but lacks of confidence would prevent something real revolutionary to happen...

To the confident fools out ,the self proclaimed genius johnny bravo seems so relatable...he over smartness he always landed up in trouble...

Self proclaimmed Confident fools nuture more of arrogance ..and stubbornness....you may continue to believe yourself to be the best....or call yourself the god..you can think high of yourself...no ones stopping you...but make sure not to land up in trouble...

Johny bravo also has the die hard belief that every woman who beats him up wants him..for you can look up the mirror and shout to yourself .....mirror mirror on the wall whos the most genius of all...n the voices inside you shouts...you my lord...

Then there are some political leaders who in hunger for power and dominacy they lice in their own world of delusions...

...now let us take the case of the brainy smurf...always trying to prove himself better than other and outsmart others...and landing himself into troubles and everytime other smurfs coming up for his rescue....only papa smurf could convince him of his follies..

Confident..nobita... doubtful ...doraemon

Here is coyote another self proclaimmed genius from the road runners

For a wise person,the more he learns or explores ,the more he realises how much he dont know...

Now we will look up the examples of genius whom the world believed to be absent minded...

The most beautiful thing we can experience is the mysterious...belief in unknowns,chances,unexpectancy,mysteries and vast ocean of knowlege..

The rebellious nature of einstein lexpelled him from the school...alsohis headmaster had commented that he woulnt amount to much in life...n you know how much to truth it holds itself....

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Thomas alva edison

Sigmund freud..he was also fired from his first job n described as non productive....

But how much it hold true...we know now...his greatest boon to the humanity is the linvention of light bulb ....he gave in 10000 attempts before making the one...n he did not fail but discovered 10000 ways not to make the light bulb....

A genius finds the expectancy in the unexpected...

Henry ford broke 5 times before he finally succeeded..

Michael jorden who remarked that he success is attributed to multiple failures...

Walt disney had gone bankrupt before he built us the disneyland.

Einstein was destcibed as s absent minded child by his school,

Failure is a way forward...

Innumerable inventions have been made in

It is the expectancy of the unexpectancy that has led to great innovations and discoveries of all time..

Failure doesnot make you inefficent..

Iabraham lincoln switched from profession to proffesion...

Highly creative peoplerecognise things,makining connections,they see the things as others cannot see..

They stand against conventional opinions,n with their own existing beliefs,..emrace new ideas n always look for new opportunities..

You can spot such people in your vicinity ... with louder mouths and smaller minds and yet a package never short of confidence...

they are always right in their light and there is confidence booming ...they trust themselves to be their best critics and dont need any piece of advices or suggestions leaving no scope for correction...earning them the fools of lifetime award...

These are 2 diffrent tales of same city..on the other had a doubtful genius has the ideas,n good knowlege ,but full of self doubts n lacking certainly n confidence in oneself he never lands up executing the plans..he underperforms as per his actual potential...n things ends up being inefficent...

In my opinion,i suggest to try,enter the ring n play..even if you fail in few attempts you will end up gaining good experience which would be progressive for your next term attempts...learning out of failure is important factor for cultivating a genius...

There are age old words of wisdom from philosophy of socrtees...the wisdom lies in understand ones limitations of knowlege....you are only uncovering the vast ocean of knowlege of universe...

A self assured confident fool is living in a world of dillusions...self assurity makes one further ignorant and close minded to new ideas,thoughts and even prejudiced to diffrent opnions....

While in the road of enlightenment one has to walk the jouney of inquiry,skepticism,question oneself consistently,n be open to learning of new techniques n methodologies and be constantly driven towards further understanding of universe and its mysteries....

curious mind understands the limitations of his own knowledge and experiences , n gets in the lifetime learning mode...

there is certainty in the uncertainties...

confident fools...

if one thinks one knows everything,he has already cultivated a fool in himself....

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