Is it love or mere obsession
By funtoosh_DIARIES - March 15, 2019
How do you describe the feeling of falling or being in Love?
Giving you the butterflies in the stomach, or brimming up with excitement thinking
of the special one
Giving you the butterflies in the stomach, or brimming up with the excitement thinking
of the special one
When it comes to seeking love, we look out for the devoted committed and loyal partner
How do we define the LOVE?
With the subtle signs find out whether its the love or the obsession with the person you are attracted
However there is no sure shot test for the LOVE expect the TIME
LOVE is a healthy emotion, it grows deeper when you invest the time and energy to know each other and really understands on another at the deepest level.
However there is no sure shot test for the LOVE expect the TIME
LOVE is a healthy emotion, it grows deeper when you invest the time and energy to know each other and really understands on another at the deepest level.
Getting close too fast or speeding up the relationship without the investment of proper time to get to really know each other might confuse the deepest feeling of attraction for the love
Sometimes the relationship are built in the state of anxiety and insecurities
Like the fear of rejection and encompassing emotional and spiritual vulnerabilities
Here are the subtle signs of the healthy love and unhealthy obsession
Care vs possession
Love is concern and care...
You respect the beliefs and individuality of the person
A healthy relationship supports your dreams and goals.
Also it does respect your independence
It is in support of the self actualization and the best version of one another
The partners support and motivate each other
To build and emotional and
spiritual relationship the couple need
to be vulnerable to one another and let in the person
to your inner self,
your vulnerabilities and the darkness
Spotting the Obsession mirroring the LOVE
In the beginning it may feel a lot like the love, making your heart race, or skip the beat and you think of nothing else except the one person
There is the physical need to be with that person every day every time
Your complete focus is put on your partner and the relationship
It may lead to the repetitive thoughts, over analyzation of the situations and the obsession
These are the sign of the unhealthy relationship
Also if the relationship, if the motivation lies in pleasing the partner for approval,
It could be reflection of the issues of lack of self worthiness or self love
The Love is considerate and thoughtful about the feelings of the partner
However the obsession treats the partner as the possession, and uses the control and manipulation to make the things work in ones own favor
It rather underlies the need for the authority and control of the obsessed partner in the relationship
Role of healthy Communication
Constant messaging, calls, no respect for space of other person and poking up with expectations or acting out in frustration and other irrational ways are the signs of unhealthy communication in a relationship
However a good communication is required for a healthy and sustainable relationship
Sometimes people may do things without awareness also
So speak up and communicate for your yourself and also the sustainability and enrichment of a healthier relationship
In love you are honest about your real self
while in unhealthy relationship you agree to anything and can do everything to make the person stay in the relationship
which may include change in one appearance or behavior for attraction
The changes just for pseudo attraction may not last long
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There could be the positive change or the learning of the new ideas, concept and experiences
Signs of Unhealthy relationship
Feelings of mistrust and negative feelings like jealousy, mistrust, anger and even paranoia develops in the relationship
Jealousy develops when the partner spends time with the opposite sex friends
Obsessive partner may turn verbally or physically abusive too
With the time this emotion may grow deeper and develop into the obsession
Followed by multiple phone calls and texts
Eventually feeling equivalent to the suffocation
like the unanswered text leading to agitation
The toxic relationship
You are yourself responsible for your conditions and no one else
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The concept of unconditional love is giving and appreciating ..
With expectations it becomes conditional
However in a toxic relationship, partners act irresponsible and hold other responsible for their conditions and actions irrespective of their own insecurities and weaknesses.
However in a toxic relationship, partners act irresponsible and hold other responsible for their conditions and actions irrespective of their own insecurities and weaknesses.
Other subtle signs of a toxic relationship
NOT respecting the individuality, interests and happiness of a person
blame games and guilt tactics are played to control the person
Attention is sought
The obsessive partner may play the guilt tactics on the other partner blaming the other person responsible for ones conditions ,like self harm and half hearted suicides performed to seek the attention
Use of drugs, alcohol, self harm and self destructive behavior become common.
They often dominates their beliefs and actions and becomes controlling which often leads to manipulation
NOT respecting the individuality, interests and happiness of a person
blame games and guilt tactics are played to control the person
Attention is sought
The obsessive partner may play the guilt tactics on the other partner blaming the other person responsible for ones conditions ,like self harm and half hearted suicides performed to seek the attention
Use of drugs, alcohol, self harm and self destructive behavior become common.
They often dominates their beliefs and actions and becomes controlling which often leads to manipulation
This happens when you allow yourself to loose your identity in the relationship
You are unable to accept the end of the relationship
You believe you cant live without the other person and feel the world coming to an end
or you continue with stalking your ex
You are unable to accept the end of the relationship
You believe you cant live without the other person and feel the world coming to an end
or you continue with stalking your ex
However a good communication is required for a healthy and sustainable relationship
Sometimes people do things without awareness thoughtlessly also
So speak up and communicate for your yourself and for the sustainability and enrichment of a healthier relationship
Sometimes people do things without awareness thoughtlessly also
So speak up and communicate for your yourself and for the sustainability and enrichment of a healthier relationship
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1 comments
Awesome mam... This will clear the difference between love and obsession. After reading I will get the awesome feeling of love ❤❤❤. Just pure and awesome writing mam.
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